Welcome to our expertly curated collection of sexpert-recommended books, designed for those who are passionate about learning, growing, and healing. In this comprehensive list, you'll find a wealth of knowledge spanning a diverse range of subjects, each chosen to enrich your understanding and exploration of self and relationships. From the intricate dynamics of intimacy and sexuality to the transformative journey of healing and personal growth, these books cover it all. Whether you're seeking to deepen your connection with your own sexuality, exploring alternative lifestyles, or delving into the profound history, politics, and philosophy of sex and relationships, our selection offers something for everyone. Embrace this opportunity to expand your horizons, challenge your perspectives, and embark on a journey of self-discovery and enlightenment with these insightful reads. |
Top Reads Professionals Recommend
Find an amazing selection of impactful books endorsed by seasoned experts in sex and relationships. Discover new perspectives and deepen your understanding with these highly recommended titles!
Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How it Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life by Dr. Justin J. LehmillerAn insightful exploration into the diversity of human sexual desire and its implications for improving sexual relationships. |
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents by Lindsay C. GibsonDelves into overcoming the challenges faced by children of emotionally immature parents. |
Better Sex Through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire by Lori A. BrottoA revolutionary approach to enhancing sexual desire and intimacy through the practice of mindfulness. |
The Boudoir Bible: The Uninhibited Sex Guide for Today by Betony VernonThis guide breaks down barriers, offering bold and adventurous sexual advice for the modern era. |
Designer Relationships: A Guide to Happy Monogamy, Positive Polyamory, and Optimistic Open Relationships by Mark A. Michaels, Patricia JohnsonExplores the concept of custom-designed relationships, from monogamy to polyamory. |
Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality by Christopher Ryan, Cacilda JethaInvestigates the prehistoric roots of modern human sexuality, challenging conventional notions of sexual behavior. |
Tantra: the Supreme Understanding by OshoOsho's interpretation of Tantra as a path to a profound and holistic understanding of life and spirituality. |
How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self by Nicole LePeraEmpowers you to break free from past patterns and consciously create your self. |
Books & Journals By Our Sex & Relationships Experts
Find a collection of amazing journals and books written by our seasoned experts in sex and relationships. Discover their perspectives and deepen your understanding with these highly recommended titles!
20 Week Therapy/Coaching Journal: Unlock Your Potential for Self-Discovery and Personal Transformation with this Guided Journal for Your Personal Growth JourneyThis Growth Journey Journal is the perfect tool for anyone engaging in therapy or coaching. It provides a space to reflect on your sessions, challenge yourself to build new habits and make them stick, track your progress, celebrate your wins, and stay accountable to your commitments. |
Different Loving Too: Real People, Real Lives, Real BDSMThe long-awaited sequel to 1993's Different Loving, the book that introduced BDSM to the mainstream, Different Loving Too takes a deep dive into the secret world of BDSM and how it has changed in the 21st century. |
Love Thy Body: Sex, Love and Relationships: A Collection of Real Life StoriesThis captivating collaboration book, bought to you by Serena Novelli and Love Thy Body Project, where real-life accounts converge to provide profound insights and unwavering support for individuals seeking guidance in matters of the heart. |
Read Me: A Parental Primer for "The Talk"Sexologist and mom, Dr. Lanae St.John, aka, The MamaSutra, believes it’s time to shake up the status quo and normalize sex and sexuality. Dr. St.John uses “The Five Building Blocks to a Healthy Sexuality” to ensure children and adults of all ages have the best resources, support, and skills to make good decisions and grow into a happy and fulfilling sex life. |
A Tired Woman's Guide to Passionate Sex: Reclaim Your Desire and Reignite Your Relationship by Laurie MintzComplete with case studies and exercises, this sex-cure-in-a-book will help readers feel sexy and sensual again! |
Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters- And How to Get It by Laurie MintzBy dispelling the lies, misunderstandings, and myths, Becoming Cliterate tackles both personal and political problems and replaces them with updated outlooks and practical skills needed to change our collective perspective on sex. |
For Better or Even Better: 7 Lessons on Love & Life from a Non-Monogamist by Lauren HayesA practical guide that explores universal truths about building deeper, more authentic relationships through the lens of ethical non-monogamy. |
Amazon Hammer by Gloria G. BrameTake a 20-year life journey into the deepest recesses of the world of BDSM with Jax, the tempestuous yet ethical, sadistic yet loving, heroine of this novel. |
In French: Reinventing Your Intimate Life after a Baby by Camille BataillonPregnancy and childbirth disrupt intimate life. This complete, committed and inclusive guide to postpartum sexuality will give its readership the keys to a fulfilling sexual and emotional life after the arrival of a baby. |
Help Her Heal: An Empathy Workbook for Sex Addicts to Help their Partners Heal by Carol Juergensen Sheets and Allan J. KatzCarol Juergenen Sheets and Allan J. Katz have created a workbook/roadmap for rebuilding relationships damaged by sexual addiction and other forms of infidelity. This is a recipe for healing a broken relationship. |
Different Loving: A Complete Exploration of the World of Sexual Dominance and Submission“A detailed, eye-opening account of the real sexual underground in America . . . a thorough and serious study.”—Playboy |
For The Growth Journey
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Radical Honesty: How To Transform Your Life By Telling The Truth by Brad BlantonAn exploration of how radical honesty can dramatically transform and improve all aspects of your life. |
Nonviolent Communication -- A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships (Nonviolent Communication Guides) by Marshall B. RosenbergPresents life-changing tools for fostering healthy, empathetic, and effective communication in relationships. |
When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress by Gabor MatéA compelling look into how emotional stress can manifest physically and impact overall health. |
The 5 Apology Languages: The Secret to Healthy Relationships by Gary Chapman, Jennifer ThomasIdentifies and explains five distinct languages of apology to improve and heal relationships. |
Fair Play: Share the mental load, rebalance your relationship and transform your life by Eve RodskyOffers strategies for balancing domestic responsibilities and achieving greater equity in relationships. |
You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation by Deborah TannenExplores the different communication styles of men and women and their impact on conversations and relationships. |
I Only Say This Because I Love You: How the Way We Talk Can Make or Break Family Relationships Throughout Our Lives by Deborah TannenAnalyzes how family communication can either strengthen or strain familial bonds. |
That's Not What I Meant!: How Conversational Style Makes or Breaks Your Relations with Others by Deborah TannenDiscusses how conversational styles can either build or hinder relationships. |
Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brené BrownEncourages embracing vulnerability to transform the way we live, love, parent, and lead. |
Rewriting the Rules: An Anti Self-Help Guide to Love, Sex and Relationships by Meg John BarkerAn unconventional guide that challenges traditional norms in love, sex, and relationships. |
The Art Of Saying NO: How To Stand Your Ground, Reclaim Your Time And Energy, And Refuse To Be Taken For Granted (Without Feeling Guilty!) by Damon ZahariadesA guide to setting boundaries effectively without feeling guilty. |
Designer Relationships: A Guide to Happy Monogamy, Positive Polyamory, and Optimistic Open Relationships by Mark A. Michaels, Patricia JohnsonExplores the concept of custom-designed relationships, from monogamy to polyamory. |
The Wild Woman's Way: Reconnect to Your Body's Wisdom by Michaela BoehmEncourages women to reconnect with their body’s wisdom and innate sensuality. |
The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent by Betty Martin, Robyn DalzenFocuses on understanding and practicing consent in relationships. |
The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work by John GottmanOffers principles based on research for creating lasting and fulfilling marriages. |
The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts by Gary ChapmanExplains how understanding and speaking your partner's love language can strengthen your relationship. |
Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict into Connection by Dr John Schwartz Gottman, Dr Julie Schwartz GottmanProvides insights on how couples can turn conflicts into opportunities for connection. |
The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work: A practical guide from the international bestselling relationship expert by John GottmanA practical guide by a leading relationship expert on building and sustaining a strong marriage. |
The Science of Trust: Emotional Attunement for Couples by John M. Gottman Ph.D.Explores the role of trust and emotional connection in building strong relationships. |
Living on Your Own Terms (Osho Life Essentials) by OshoOffers insights into living life authentically and on one's own terms. |
For The Healing Journey
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Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life by Byron Katie and Stephen MitchellOffers transformative questions to radically shift your perspective on life. |
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents by Lindsay C. GibsonDelves into overcoming the challenges faced by children of emotionally immature parents. |
Welcome Home: A Guide to Building a Home For Your Soul by Najwa ZebianOffers insightful guidance on nurturing your soul and creating a personal sanctuary. |
The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook: A Proven Way to Accept Yourself, Build Inner Strength, and Thrive by Kristin Neff, Christopher GermerExplore self-acceptance and resilience through practical exercises. |
It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle by Mark WolynnonUncovers the impact of inherited family trauma and pathways to healing. |
No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model by Richard SchwartzIntroduces a transformative approach to trauma healing using the Internal Family Systems Model. |
With Pleasure: Managing Trauma Triggers for More Vibrant Sex and Relationships by August McLaughlinRedefines the journey to vibrant sexual and relational health post-trauma. |
How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self by Nicole LePeraEmpowers you to break free from past patterns and consciously create your self. |
Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself by Nedra Glover TawwabA compelling roadmap to setting boundaries and finding inner peace. |
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der KolkA groundbreaking exploration of trauma's effects on the mind and body. |
The Absent Father Effect on Daughters: Father Desire, Father Wounds by Susan E. SchwartzAn insightful exploration into how the absence of a father impacts a daughter's life and psyche. |
Recovery: Freedom from Our Addictions by Russell BrandA candid and humorous look at overcoming addictions and finding freedom. |
Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Kristin NeffReveals the life-changing benefits of treating yourself with kindness. |
The Emotionally Absent Father: The path to healing and Growth by Andriana CareyA guide to understanding and healing from the effects of having an emotionally unavailable father. |
Mother Hunger: How Adult Daughters Can Understand and Heal from Lost Nurturance, Protection and Guidance by McDanielA deep dive into the longing for maternal connection and its impact on adult daughters. |
The State Of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity - a book for anyone who has ever loved by Esther PerelA provocative and enlightening perspective on infidelity and its complex role in modern relationships. |
For The Sexual Being Within
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Better Sex Through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire by Lori A. BrottoA revolutionary approach to enhancing sexual desire and intimacy through the practice of mindfulness. |
Come as you are by by Dr Emily NagoskiA groundbreaking exploration of the science of female sexuality, debunking myths and empowering women. |
She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman by Ian KernerA comprehensive guide for men on the art and importance of female sexual pleasure. |
The Boudoir Bible: The Uninhibited Sex Guide for Today by Betony VernonThis guide breaks down barriers, offering bold and adventurous sexual advice for the modern era. |
The Come As You Are Workbook: a practical guide to the science of sexAn interactive workbook that complements 'Come as You Are', offering practical tools for understanding and improving one's sex life. |
F*ck Like a Goddess: Heal Yourself. Reclaim Your Voice. Stand in Your Power by Alexandra RoxoCombines personal empowerment with sexuality, encouraging women to embrace their true selves. |
Perv: The Sexual Deviant in All of Us by Jesse BeringA provocative and enlightening look into the spectrum of human sexuality, challenging our perceptions of 'normal' sexual behavior. |
Mating in Captivity: How to keep desire and passion alive in long-term relationships by Esther PerelExplores the paradox of maintaining sexual desire in committed relationships, offering insightful solutions. |
For The Alternative Lifestyle
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The Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love by Janet W. W. Hardy, Dossie EastonA comprehensive guide on polyamory and open relationships, advocating for ethical and responsible non-monogamy. |
Polywise: a deeper dive into navigating open relationships by Jessica Fern, David Cooley, Carrie Jenkins (Foreword)Offers deeper insights and practical advice for navigating the complexities of open relationships. |
The Polyamory Breakup Book: Causes, Prevention, and Survival by Kathy Labriola, Lacey Johnson, Dossie Easton (Foreword)Addresses the unique challenges of breakups in polyamorous relationships and strategies for coping and healing. |
Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual NonmonogamyExplores how attachment styles and trauma can influence and intersect with consensual nonmonogamy. |
Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them by David J. LeyExamines the phenomenon of women who engage in extramarital affairs and the dynamics of the relationships that support this. |
More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory by Franklin Veaux, Janet Hardy, Tatiana GillA practical guide offering ethical and emotional tools for successful polyamorous relationships. |
Playing Well with Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities by Lee Harrington, Mollena WilliamsA field guide to understanding and navigating the kink, leather, and BDSM communities with respect and consent. |
The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton, Janet W HardyProvides insights and advice for those exploring the submissive role in BDSM relationships. |
The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy: Your Guide to Open Relationships, Polyamory and Letting Go by Lola PhoenixA helpful guide for individuals with anxiety navigating open relationships and polyamory. |
Existential Kink: Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power a Method for Getting What You Want by Getting off on What You Don't by Carolyn ElliottAn unconventional approach to personal transformation through embracing and finding pleasure in one's shadow aspects. |
The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge by Tristan TaorminoA comprehensive and insightful exploration of kink, BDSM, and role play, offering practical advice, personal narratives, and an in-depth look at the erotic edge. |
Tantra & Sacred Sexuality
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Osho: Living Dangerously- Ordinary Enlightenment for Extraordinary Times (Masters of Wisdom) by OshoA guide to achieving ordinary enlightenment in extraordinary times, emphasizing a life of authenticity and courage. |
Tantra: the Supreme Understanding by OshoOsho's interpretation of Tantra as a path to a profound and holistic understanding of life and spirituality. |
Urban Tantra, Second Edition: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century by Barbara Carrellas, Annie SprinkleA modern, practical approach to Tantra, blending ancient practices with contemporary sexual knowledge for the 21st century. |
Powerful History, Politics & Philosophy of Sex & Relationships
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Sex and Punishment: Four Thousand Years of Judging Desire by Eric BerkowitzA historical exploration of the intricate relationship between sex and law over four thousand years. |
Misogyny: The World's Oldest Prejudice by Jack HollandAn in-depth analysis of the history and persistence of misogyny throughout the ages. |
Women in the Picture: What Culture Does with Female Bodies by Catherine McCormackExamines how female bodies have been represented and objectified in cultural imagery. |
My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Mending of Our Bodies and HeartsFocuses on the impact of racial trauma and offers a path towards healing the body and heart. |
Ain't I a Woman: Black Women and Feminism by Bell HooksA powerful discourse on the intersection of race, class, and gender in the context of black feminism. |
Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality by Christopher Ryan , Cacilda JethaInvestigates the prehistoric roots of modern human sexuality, challenging conventional notions of sexual behavior. |
A Curious History of Sex by Kate ListerAn engaging and often humorous journey through the fascinating history of human sexuality. |
Harlots, Whores & Hackabouts: A History of Sex for Sale by Kate ListerA revealing history of sex for sale, exploring the lives and times of sex workers through the ages. |
Gender Trouble: Feminism and the Subversion of Identity by Judith ButlerA seminal work in feminist theory, challenging traditional notions of gender and identity. |
The Very Secret Sex Lives of Medieval Women: An Inside Look at Women & Sex in Medieval Times (Human Sexuality, True Stories, Women in History) by Rosalie GilbertAn insightful look into the private sexual lives of women during medieval times. |
Unwell Women: A Journey Through Medicine And Myth in a Man-Made World by Elinor CleghornExplores the mistreatment and myths surrounding women's health in a male-dominated medical world. |
The Story of Sex: A Graphic History Through the Ages by Philippe BrenotA graphic novel presenting a visual and historical journey through the evolution of human sexuality. |
Sex and Sexuality in Ancient Rome by L J TraffordAn exploration of the complex and often surprising aspects of sex and sexuality in Ancient Rome. |
Sex and Sexuality in Victorian Britain by Violet FennDelves into the often contradictory and hidden sexual mores of Victorian Britain. |
The Second Sex by Simone De BeauvoirA groundbreaking exploration of women's oppression and a foundational tract of contemporary feminism. |
The History of Sexuality: 1: The Will to Knowledge by Michel FoucaultExamines the relationship between power and knowledge, and how they are used as a form of social control through sexuality. |
The History of Sexuality: 2: The Use of Pleasure by Michel FoucaultFocuses on sexual attitudes and practices in Greek and Roman antiquity, exploring the concept of "bio-power." |
The History of Sexuality: 3: The Care of the Self by Michel FoucaultInvestigates the practices of self-formation and self-care in the Hellenistic and Roman eras, linking them to sexual ethics. |
For The Insatiably Curious Souls
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Vagina by Naomi WolfA fascinating cultural and historical analysis of the vagina and its influence on women's identity and creativity. |
Invisible Women: Exposing Data Bias in a World Designed for MenReveals the gender data gap and its profound impact on women's lives in a male-centric world. |
Lady Parts: Biblical Women and the Vagina Monologues by by Kathryn D. Blanchard, Jane S. WebsterA unique blend of biblical narratives and modern reflections, exploring women's experiences and challenges. |
The Vagina Bible: The Vulva and the Vagina - Separating the Myth from the Medicine Audible Logo Audible Audiobook – Unabridged by Dr. Jennifer GunterAn informative and myth-busting guide to female genital health and wellness. |
Pussy: A Reclamation by Regena ThomashauerA bold and empowering guide to reclaiming female sexuality and power from a cultural and personal perspective. |
Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How it Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life by Dr. Justin J. LehmillerAn insightful exploration into the diversity of human sexual desire and its implications for improving sexual relationships. |
Who's Been Sleeping in Your Head?: The Secret World of Sexual Fantasy by Brett KahrDelves into the often hidden world of sexual fantasies, revealing what they say about us and our relationships. |
